Monthly Archives: May 2016

How to Find Love

  1. What type of person do you want to fall in love with?

Ask yourself this question and write down the qualities that you look for in a person.

Don’t think too much about this question just write the first things that come to your mind.

  1. What type of person are you?

Now write down on a piece of paper the type of person you are. You can use adjectives to describe yourself or describe your habits.

2. What type of person do you want to be?  what do you want to achieve in life? what is your gift/purpose?

  • Take some time each day for two weeks to sit and be. Ten minutes if you are very busy or more if you can.
  • Shut the door and block out the distractions
  • Get comfortable.
  • You can sit or lie down whichever is easier.
  • Then close your eyes and breathe in and out focusing on who you are right now.
  • Then pray to God to reveal to you the mysteries in your heart and who you truly are.
  • You may see a picture in your mind or words may come to mind.
  • Remember to breathe and relax.
  • Now write down what you have experienced.

3. Compare

  • Look at the type of person you are and the type of person you want to be. Are they similar? What do you need to do to become that person?
  • Write down what you need to achieve

4. What type of person do you need?

  • Write down what kind of person you need in your life.
  • Think about all aspects, dreams, spirituality, emotional.

5. Compare the person you need with the person you want. Are they the same? Are they similar? Have you changed your mind about what is important to you?


6. Would this person fall in love with you? Why/ why not?

  • What do you need to do to achieve those similar qualities? If you wrote a positive person and you are very negative then practise saying one positive thing every day.
  • Remember it’s not about changing who you are as a person for anyone else but it’s about becoming a better person for yourself and having a relationship with someone who also helps you to achieve this.
  • It’s important to achieve our full potential in life.
  • Remember you need someone who helps you achieve your dreams
  • You also need someone with similar core values. Opposites attract is true but most long term, lasting steady relationships are of two people with similar core values and a similar understanding of one another.

7. Be yourself

This may seem like a contradiction but actually the best person you can be is the best version of yourself. No one else can be that person and so you have the responsibility to become that person and use your gifts to bless others.Remember your dreams are just that ‘your dreams’ so grab them.

8. Stop worrying and stressing

Enjoy your life and remember when you are not as stressed you are a more attractive person. Start a club, join the gym, go running, go travelling and go on an adventure. You’ll be surprised when that person turns up and where they appear.

9. Smile

  • Let your smile radiate out and bless others. People will be drawn to you.
  • Be loving and giving
  • Be generous and open to all

10. Don’t give up

  • Never give up. Never say ‘I’ll never find someone’. Words are powerful.
  • Bless yourself every morning.
  • Declare that you will find the person who you need whom will help you become even more yourself and someone who you can encourage to do the same.

Remember you are unique and there is no one like you.

How to Move Forward with Your Life

1.Sit and be still and get to know yourself

Take ten minutes out each day to be still and to just ‘be’. In this quiet time you will suddenly come to face yourself, your fears, your dreams and your mind will become clearer.

  • Start by finding a comfortable place with no distractions
  • Focus on being thankful for who you are
  • Be mindful of your surroundings- feel where you are sitting, breathe in the air and use all of your senses
  • Focus on your breathing
  • Pray for God to show you who you really are
  • If you prefer music then put music on with no lyrics

2. Turn the negatives into positives

Everyone has bad things that happen to them and unfortunately that is part of life however we can try and find the silver lining to change the situation around even if that is really hard to start with.

  • Think of the things you’ve learnt through that situation
  • Think of how you can teach others through the things that you’ve learnt
  • For every bad thought think of two positive thoughts and write them down if it helps you

3. Write a letter to yourself

  • Write a letter to your past self telling them how to get to where you are now
  • What advice would you give them?

4. Project yourself

  • Project yourself, what are your true dreams for the future (in one year, in five years, throughout your life)
  • Write down your thoughts
  • Write a letter from your future self to your current self (this one needs more time) giving advice and comfort

5. Shake off the past

  • Take the time each morning to shake off the past
  • Look into the mirror and say one (or more) positive things about yourself (if you struggle with this get a friend to name one positive thing even if you don’t believe it say it).
  • Smile (practise smiling)
  • Look for the good in others and in the world around you. The more you practise the better you’ll get. Remember its all about changing your mindset.

6. Be proactive

  • Look at your dreams
  • What do you need to do to achieve them?
  • If it looks scary take smaller steps and take them one by one. Don’t leap just take small steps
  • Take the advice of those around you that care and support you

Remember we each have a gift. It’s what we do with it that counts.